The REAL Line

The demand of ministry is more authenticity.  It's never been easy to be an outright hypocrite, but effective ministry, anymore, is all about being "real" with those of whom we share life.  And, that's not easy either.  Personal walls of protection must come down if we are to make an impact on others.  We need models to look up to, but we also need mentors to look into.  And, that requires a level of realness that's somewhat beyond the norm.  But many times, in our attempts to meet such an expectation, we come very close to crossing the line.  Being too real can become counterproductive in ministry.  

How real can you be without becoming offensive?  Here are some suggestions to think about when answering that question:

1.  Know your audience well.  Sometimes our "realness" is gender-sensitive.  And, other times, it's maturity-based.  Guard against being a stumbling block to anyone. 

2.  Choose personal illustrations that do not betray the confidence of others.  Our relationships are central to ministry.  And, trust is the foundation of it.  Share with caution.

3.  Limit details that would negatively alter your reputation.  Framing your words and feelings before you speak is always a good rule of thumb. 

4.  Maintain a demeanor that points to Christ.  Being authentic should always highlight God's grace.

5.  Remain accountable to other spiritual leaders.  If you come close to that proverbial line, allow your spiritual leadership to caution you and then be willing to heed that counsel.

It is true that others can grow by hearing and even experiencing our personal mistakes and pain.  We are, as someone put it, "fellow struggles" in this life.  Crossing the line of "realness," however, could contaminate our pure motives. Though invisible as it may be, the REAL line is meant to be seen by every spiritual leader.  So, let's be led by God's Spirit and do ministry more intentionally by stewarding authenticity...for His honor alone!

 

What do you need to do to be more authentic while remaining appropriate with your audiences?