In Over Your Head

Have you ever been in over your head? Well, I have…and, in more ways than one. Many years ago, while enjoying the adventures of a youthful canoe trip, the vessel I was on (that I took too much confidence in) toppled. Falling into the murky river water, I immediately realized that I couldn’t touch bottom and…under I went. My swimming works when I need it to, but suffice to say, graceful wouldn’t describe it. However, before it got ugly, I heard a voice and saw an arm reaching towards me. When you’re “in over your head” trying to be cool normally won’t work if you are genuinely needing help. So, I anxiously yelled back and connected with the hand that was offered.

That’s not the only time I’ve found myself under and couldn’t seem to catch a breath. Tough situations have thickened at such a rate that before I realized it, the current swept me off my feet. Seemingly all of the techniques that I learned in the past didn’t hold sway to the forceful waves breaking over me. But, key relationships helped to pull me out, calm me down and get my equilibrium back.

Without those critical confidants, personal struggles can seem overwhelming, endless, and quite frankly can alter our perspective on practically everything. However, pride will keep you from asking for help. Pride will convince you that you can work through it on your own. Pride builds a false platform of self-confidence. When you’re in over your head, that’s not the time to “make your point” and remain dogmatic.

So, from personal experience, I might suggest to…realize that you need help beyond your current situation. In other words, someone who is outside of the condition (someone that’s back in the boat or on the shore) typically has a more unbiased perspective. Also, reach out to a trusted friend. Trust is critical for honest ears and even some occasional feedback. It’s important that the one you are reaching out to has your best interest at heart. And, finally, determine to receive the peace to know that you’re really not in this craziness alone. It’s amazing what coming to terms with that wealth of knowledge will do for you. Hey, it won’t be the last time you’ll need them or others. I don’t mind admitting that my hand will be reaching up again for some much needed help in the challenging waters of life.